Okay, ladies, I’m going to share with you the key to a man’s heart…
Okay, so maybe it’s not the key to EVERY man’s heart, but a perfectly popped batch of corn speaks to my husband’s love language. He loves it, and it’s something I make for him (usually 3 times a week or more) to show him that I love him.
I’m not going to share with you how to make it, because I just pretty much follow the directions that came with the popper, but it takes a little more effort than throwing a bag in the microwave. Not too much effort — it takes about 5 minutes of standing at the stove and a little elbow grease to wash the pan… but to my husband, it tells him that he is worth my effort.
How do you tell your spouse they are worth the effort? Yours may not be a popcorn fan, but I’m guessing there are ways. Fixing him a drink? Keeping his laundry done? Taking out the trash, when it’s “his job.”
Sure, he could do those things himself. But the point is not that he’s not able, or not even that he expects it or not… the point is, do things for him because you love him. I think that it’s easy to get caught up in focusing on taking care of the kids and meeting their needs because they’re so great. There are things you HAVE to do for your kids or they won’t get done. Just because your spouse can be self-sufficient doesn’t mean he couldn’t use a little TLC anyway.
So, I want to encourage you to remember to shower your husband with small acts of kindness. Do something today for him that he could do for himself, but that you want to do for him just because you love him. Even little things, when added up, help keep those love banks full!