Okay, ladies, I’m going to share with you the key to a man’s heart…
Popcorn.
Okay, so maybe it’s not the key to EVERY man’s heart, but a perfectly popped batch of corn speaks to my husband’s love language. He loves it, and it’s something I make for him (usually 3 times a week or more) to show him that I love him.
I’m not going to share with you how to make it, because I just pretty much follow the directions that came with the popper, but it takes a little more effort than throwing a bag in the microwave. Not too much effort — it takes about 5 minutes of standing at the stove and a little elbow grease to wash the pan… but to my husband, it tells him that he is worth my effort.
How do you tell your spouse they are worth the effort? Yours may not be a popcorn fan, but I’m guessing there are ways. Fixing him a drink? Keeping his laundry done? Taking out the trash, when it’s “his job.”
Sure, he could do those things himself. But the point is not that he’s not able, or not even that he expects it or not… the point is, do things for him because you love him. I think that it’s easy to get caught up in focusing on taking care of the kids and meeting their needs because they’re so great. There are things you HAVE to do for your kids or they won’t get done. Just because your spouse can be self-sufficient doesn’t mean he couldn’t use a little TLC anyway.
So, I want to encourage you to remember to shower your husband with small acts of kindness. Do something today for him that he could do for himself, but that you want to do for him just because you love him. Even little things, when added up, help keep those love banks full!
Derek and I have odd love languages… me hanging up his wet jeans when he washes them (I hate doing that – they weigh a ton), I occasionally spend two hours pairing our socks – and he likes that because he then doesn’t have to root around in the laundry baskets in the mornings, and sometimes I get him a gatorade in the morning before he asks for it and take it upstairs to him. He says that he likes it when I go with him to his see TX Country Music singers. My love language from him: he cooks for me and restocks the toilet paper and fills my truck up with diesel! That really says he loves me! I think the thing I do that says I love him most (but he has never said this) is I try and cover him with prayer before I get out of bed – so that he has wisdom at work, safe travels, that he makes Godly decisions and can handle anything the day brings him.
Love this, Tracey! Thanks for sharing. :)