Guard Your Heart

“Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.”  Proverbs 4:23

I will be the first to admit that I am NOT perfect.  I have MANY shortcomings, and as much as I try to guard my children from watching inappropriate television or movies, I don’t always hold to the same standards for myself.  And while I may not limit myself to only watching “G-rated” movies, I do follow my own set of standards, as flawed as they may be.

However,  I have been very disappointed as of late by the ardent following of such completely inappropriate media by even my Christian friends.  First was the “50 Shades” craze, and now the “Magic Mike” following.  Now, I haven’t read or watched either, so my opinion is based only on things I have picked up here and there, but ladies, why the intense passion for such things?

I don’t even need to go into the content to make my point.  You all are most likely just as aware of these story lines as I am, and if you aren’t, well, I’m sure even a search on Wikipedia will enlighten you with even more than you need to know.  With all the books out there, isn’t there something with a little more literary merit to spend time reading than something that so perverts the relationship God set up for a husband and wife?

As for the movie, I have seen teenagers post pictures of half-naked men onto their Facebook pages.  Women have been discussing it for weeks, saying they don’t even know what the movie is about, but they’re going for the “eye-candy.”  Really?  What are we teaching our kids? Where have our standards gone?

“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”  Philippians 4:8

This verse should be our guideline.  I know it’s a hard one to follow, but I honestly believe it is what we should strive for.  When we read a book or watch a movie, we are putting those things into our hearts.  They cannot be undone.  We should be asking ourselves the following questions:

  • “Is this edifying me?”
  • “Is it pure?”
  • “Is it praiseworthy?”
  • “Is this healthy for me, for my relationships, for my self-esteem?”
  • “Would I let my kids read this?”
  • “Would I want my mom to watch this with me?”

If there are some resounding “NOs”, then I would honestly think twice about subjecting my heart and mind to such things.  I may have stepped on some toes, and I’m sorry, but this has really been on my heart lately.  We need to step up and go against the grain.  Reading and watching these types of things is NOT okay.  Not only does it desensitize us and affect our hearts, it is a poor example to other Christians, especially younger ones.

Guard your hearts, friends.

~Mama Tutu

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9 Responses to Guard Your Heart

  1. Debi Kirksey July 2, 2012 at 8:49 am #

    I’m on board with you.

    Debi

  2. Sarah July 2, 2012 at 9:24 am #

    Amen! I love that you were so honest and forward about your opinions on this. I hope that we can all try our hardest to focus on Godly things and the things of the world. Thank you for sharing! (PS – Totally agree about Shades and Mike)

  3. Karis July 2, 2012 at 10:04 am #

    Funny thing is, I have seen fb and blog posts about this stuff and my neighbor mentioned it to me but I literally have no idea about it at ALL. 2 years ago I felt a deep conviction about the exact thing you’re talking about. I was wrapped up in the drama of greys, the latest dates on the bachelor and the craze of private practice. But it was NOT good for my heart to dwell on such things. I’m an “all or nothing” kinda gal, so i have been tv free for more than 2 years and still going strong. And I find myself invested in much holier, healthier things. But I NEVER know what’s going on in tv land or popular crazes. Some accuse me of being in a bubble but it’s an okay bubble to live in :) I’m thankful for the example of my friend Amy Cady about this topic. It changed my life and my time.

  4. Joanna B July 2, 2012 at 2:23 pm #

    Laura, I agree with you, too. I am thankful that the Lord gave you the courage to say this. We cannot be too careful about what we put into our minds. One question I would suggest as an addition to your list: “Does this increase my appetite for God’s word?” May you continue to “grow in grace”!

  5. Anne Marie July 2, 2012 at 5:40 pm #

    Very well said, Laura. The wave of Magic Mike hoopla has me particularly disturbed. If the roles were reversed and our husbands were posting all over Facebook about how hot the women in Magic “Mary” were, we’d be outraged! I feel that it’s dishonoring our vows of marriage to be talking or acting so inappropriately, as many are right now. So glad you were brave enough to stand up on this issue!

  6. diana mcadams July 4, 2012 at 3:56 pm #

    Laura,
    Two other posts that say the same thing in slightly different ways. Appreciated them ( and yours ) ..especially the first about why “I’m not reading 50 shades ”

    http://www.purefreedom.org/blog/?p=320

    http://momof3darlings.wordpress.com/tag/a-christians-perspective-on-50-shades-of-grey/

  7. diana mcadams July 4, 2012 at 4:15 pm #

    Oh, forgot to list this one,,,,which is also very good. I am encouraged every time I find another post from a Christian perspective. Gives me hope that there are still a lot who will take a stand for righteousness.

    http://melissajenna.com/2012/06/30/50-shades-of-magic-mike-in-which-i-am-very-uncool/

  8. Kristen July 5, 2012 at 3:38 pm #

    I will admit to being one of those girls excited to see Magic Mike – in the end, it was absolutely NOT what I expected. I anticipated a little shirtless dancing and maybe some language, but what I got was way more than that, and not in a good way.

    The fact that we are all watching these movies, reading these books (I haven’t) and engrossed in fantasy like behavior online just makes me wonder what is sacred anymore. Apparently, not much, which is really too bad.

  9. Cassidy July 7, 2012 at 8:46 am #

    I’m only a twelve year old girl, but I can still understand the depths of these movies. I went to a lockin for Teen Scene, a drug free teen group at my city’s YMCA, and the girl showing the movies was obsessed with ‘hot’ guy celebrity figures (Taylor Lautner and like). The first movie they showed was Tangled, and during that she came over to us and was showing us pictures that she had on her phone. Sure, I have my crushes, but it’s based on the guy’s heart. She was looking foward to the next movie, the GI Joe with Channing Tatum (He’s in Mike) ‘cuz he was cute. I can’t believe some of the things the girls do at my school. We’re just going into Jr. High and some of my peers aren’t even virgins anymore. I feel so alone sometimes, and I get a lot of flak from wearing my purity ring, especially since I wear it on my left hand. When people ask about it, I tell them that when I’m married, my body will be my husband’s, but for now, I belong to God.

    God Bless,
    A small town girl you don’t know.

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